“I’m engaged“… flashing that beautiful engagement ring to all your friends.
and you are off and racing
Have you set the date?
Where is the reception?
Have you found a dress yet?
Somehow you get caught up in all the important things about the wedding!
working on colours and flowers
dress shopping and accessories
and the nightmare of the guest list!
You might start feeling a little stressed and consider elopement but then no-one would get to see you in that perfect dress!
Now stop! Breathe!
Have you spared even a minute to think about the actual wedding ceremony – you know that bit where you say your vows?
You may not have considered this but it is really the most important part of the day – where you and your beloved are going to make a promise to share the rest of your lives together.
You really should think about how you would like to do that and maybe some of the other parts will fit in around that pivotal moment of the day.
Traditional Church/ Outdoor celebrant? Formal/Informal?
These need to be the first questions that you consider and of course you both need to be in agreement and sometimes this might not be as easy as it sounds.
So sit down together quietly and decide what works best for the both of you.
If you decide to have a religious wedding ceremony, the priest or pastor is pretty much the director. You and your fiancé are the principal stage actors and just need to remember your lines. You might need to attend some rehearsals and you might get stage fright, but the director will be there to guide you so don’t worry too much.
If you choose to have a wedding celebrant then the sky is the limit and you can do whatever you want.
…except what do you want?
Tying the Knot!
The words that you will say to each other – these words should represent who you are and how you will be together – here you can say anything you want to each other but the best advice is to keep these words simple and true to you.
Symbolise your physical union!
There are so many ways that you could do this, some from different cultures and times and some so very modern.
wrapping of hands
sharing of wine
mixing of coloured sand into one bottle
Create the ambience!
Think about how you want your moment to look.
Develop a theme that will then carry through to your reception. Think about the things you love to do together and do some research.
There might be a special song or music that signifies your union, maybe some poetry or a reading from a book or a scene from a movie that you both love.
Find a way that you can include your family and special friends.
Consider your guests
It will be a long day for them and you want them to really remember your wedding as that special one.
Maybe champagne or cocktails for them as they wait for your arrival. That certainly starts the festivities off on the right foot.
Be sure that there are plenty of seats for some of your older guests who might find standing around for well over an hour difficult.
Above all just try to remember that this is your day to be shared with those most special to you and …
Do it your way….but along the way to help inspire your creative mind have a look at the ideas of others